You get bitter or better

My mom has crystal clear common sense. She's highly observant of human nature and how/why people react and respond the way they do.

One observation that she shared with me as I approached 30 was:

"As people age, some lose their sense of humor. They forget how to laugh, and laugh at their self."

How I put it:

You get bitter or you get better.

Now that I am in my 30s and I reflect on how we age, how we are taught to deal with/handle our emotions, it's so easy to see why some lose this sense of light-heartedness. The world can be tough, and it strengthens the ego's grip of temporary satiation:

Consumption of anything but digesting your emotions.

Especially if you're dealing with mental illness like depression (as I have), anxiety, or PTSD or anything in between, there's a line between healing and dealing.

Dealing with your emotions may lead you to feeling defeated, disconnected, or the ultimate dead end: apathy or pessimism that "its never going to change."

Healing your emotions and aging gracefully requires participation, a choice in every decision and moment to try and choose more wisely. This means making choices that help you cope and move you forward, like therapy, medicine (anti-depressants are a good thing in the right prescriptive settings), and/or coaching.

Most importantly, the world is filled with gravitas, a weighted, anchor, that can feel like moving forward can't be done. Maybe that's what the powers at be want: to keep us imprisoned from feeling like there's possibility. So, what can you do?

Be brave. Be courageous in your choices and resolve to move forward, identify how your feeling and why, and to stay bright. Be careful not to placate your despair with unchecked positivity -- I am all about being rational as I am about emotional intelligence.

Choosing to look for joy in the impossible is a great act of liberation. It leads to action to inspire and heal yourself and others.

Eclipses and Broken Crystals

Over the last couple of years, I have noticed a trend in this crystal community as well as with others in the larger crystal healing community, that there seems to be a correlation between eclipses and crystals breaking.

Here's my take. It's unique, and one that I believe should be reassuring.

When crystals break, go missing, chip, etc. it is because they have a had a surge of energy. This can mean something as common as dropping it (obviously force + velocity), but I feel like there's also additional celestial energy of which eclipses DEFINITELY fit this bill.

Yesterday, someone on my FB feed talked about unusually low tides in WA state--well when we have something like the earth or the sun literally eclipsing the moon, the gravitational waves which we can't see (and can now measure--thanks LIGO!) are being interfered with it disorders the regular vibrational waves Earth receives from that celestial object.

Think about it: if you block or interrupt the force of something it's going to effect the impact.

Humans are incredibly powerful--much more than we give ourselves credit for--and we often have energy through emotions, physical entropy, our past, our mental faculties, all have an effect on the energy around us.

Have you ever walked into a room and sensed physical discomfort even though people have big ol' fake smiles on?

That's an example of the energy not being congruent with the facade. That stifling of authentic or genuine emotion manifests physically! And we ALL know it!

It's the physical manifestation of "I'm fine," said with pursed lips.

When you work with crystals, your own energy intertwines and starts to weave with your mineral. The vibrations of what that crystal is stimulating is interacting with your body, mind, heart, and soul.

That crystal adjusts your own energy to harmonize with whatever lesson, energy, or experience your crystal is syncing with.

As you start to evolve and grow as a result of that crystal, your own frequencies start to change too and it can cause them to break.

I know it can be devastating as I have actually cried when my crystals have changed.

HOWEVER, I want to share the goodness in what this means.

Your crystal isn't "done." You can still work with it, it's still as powerful, it's just undergone a physical transformation.

What I like to do is recognize how much that crystal has given me, and to thank it for being my companion and teacher.

And, I always recommend cleansing it and gifting the broken piece—maybe this is one to share with your partner or a friend? It pays the gratitude forward and spreads even more crystalline vibrations in the world.

I have noticed with eclipse energies or other tight celestial transits will create a bit more of a susceptibility, but it is also the case when you very first start to work with crystals.

Your own energy has been out of whack until you received that crystal and that crystal has been in overdrive to help course correct and lend itself to you. That's worthy of gratitude and praise for you both. It's the purest and most innocent form of empathy.

Thank you for doing YOUR work: to be open, to receiving, to allowing the crystal to do its thing.

Thank you to your crystal for being present, and for continuing to bring your gifts to this moment in time.

Don't dismay! This is a powerful lesson from the crystalline kingdom that we all must learn (earlier, perhaps the better?):

It's a moment to recognize the gifts of transformation. The gift of mineral assistance. A moment to truly appreciate what the crystal gives you.

When the edge that broke is a bit more rough: touch it. Rub your fingers on it carefully.

Warm your hands on the edges. Soften them, as the crystal has softened you with more love and kindness.

I know it can be a fucking bummer, and I ask that you don't cast your rock friend aside but welcome it's new form with even more love and gentleness and spread that broken piece to others with immense gratitude to a friend, a partner, or a plant. (Plants LOVE crystals!)

Honestly, when a crystal breaks, I think they're more beautiful because of the gifts they've shared.